Yet again I have been pitted against my ex husband in a game of ‘good parent – bad parent’, the cause of which is a small and shiny plastic disc, which while looking harmless enough actually contains a comprehensive content of vulgarity, violence, sexual depravity and well, to put not too fine a point on it….misogyny.
Yup, my 12 year old’s father actually bought my son Grand Theft Auto IV yesterday, in yet another senseless and idiotic moment of parental irresponsibility.
And my son thinks his father is better than God.
Winner of the Numero Uno parent of the year awards
….as per usual.
I’m so sick and tired of this Bull.
When my son bought the game home from his Dad’s last night…I was so angry I said I couldn’t talk about it…(I didn’t know about the game until the ex had gone home) ….today, I ruined our family Sunday lunch because I could not keep a lid on my frustraton and anger anymore.
After speaking about the game this week and telling my son that he must not get the game. He blatantly ignored me.
Of course, his Dad wants to spend money on our boy rather than give me a penny of maintenance (he does occassionally purchase clothes for our son but this is sporadic and he keeps them at his house usually) and so he indulges our son instead by buying expensive things for him, spoiling him in many ways…not merely by buying him pricey treats for no reason at all (when he knows I have little money and struggle to buy huge presents even at Birthday and Christmas time – this makes him Daddy Popular!)…but also he’s ruining/spoiling/informing our son’s moral judgement and by his irresponsible actions, desensitizing him to violent and depraved sexual behaviours.
Of course, as expected, my son did his absolute best to convince me that I was being unreasonable about not wanting the game in the house…despite the fact that the game is for 18 year olds and that he happens to be 12 years old….that the game is free roaming and allows your character to have sex with prostitutes and then beat them up with a baseball bat and then kill them and get your money back…that your character can visit a lap dancing club and have a girl dance sexually provocatively just for you, that your character can masturbate…oh and that’s before we get onto your character being able to shoot people in the face at close range and thanks to the ‘huminization’ of the characters…you get to witness and experience the victims reaction (yup, it hurts right??????)….. before your character proceeds to kick his head in…..
God, give me strength!
But still wonderboy tried to convince me that as it is a ‘free roaming’ game he didn’t have to do those things on the game…and so I asked him if he had…..and he couldn’t answer me.
So I said to him;
“Every game you usually play, you ask me to come and sit and watch you so you can show your skill….would you like me to sit and watch you play this game?”
“NO!”, he said.
“Well”, I said, “since you are saying it’s not as bad as I’m making out, I’d like to see for myself what this game is like, shall I come upstairs and play on it myself?”
“NO!!!”, he said
He went upstairs in a sulk.
Ten minutes later he came downstairs and said he has unplugged his ps3 ready to take it to his Dad’s house tomorrow…I told him I don’t want that game coming back here and that if his Dad is stupid enough to buy the game and let him play on it, then I have no influence over what his Dad chooses to do… (though you can guess that I’l be writing him a letter this afternoon!)…. but that as a responsible parent it is my duty to make decisions, set guidelines and rules acording to (in this case the law) our beliefs, to issues of morality and decency etc….and that I hoped he would one day understand that it isn’t my job to be his friend, but his parent.
I believe that I am the only one of his parents who actually will do this, who will attempt to teach him right from wrong, to lay down rules… and it is so frustrating when his Dad’s irresponsibility causes this kind of conflict between me and my son…my son says I over react that I am too protective, that his Dad is cool and I am not. That he would prefer to spend time at his Dad’s house. Well of course he would! His father indulges him!
His Dad has finally got his way then hasn’t he!
When I left him he said that he would do all he could to turn our son against me…that our son would prefer to be with him rather than me, that he would do everything he could to have our son think that he was the cool parent…it sucks. This job of single parenthood is difficult enough without having to constantly fight against the immature and irresponsible decisions, actions and influence of my ex husband.
It never gets easier. Just more complicated. More frustrating.
For information purposes I would advise parents of under 18’s to read the folowing articles, reviews and opinions as well as my own.
GTA IV Reviews that parents need to read before purchasing this game for their children