When years ago, I received the blessing of having my blog visited regularly by your thoroughly delightful selves, I endeavoured long and hard to respond to each individual comment that was left here.
Being by nature something of a people pleaser and a worrier, i tend to become rather angst ridden and anal about ridiculous things.
And I worry a whole lot too.
Did I say that already?
Failing to respond to every individual comment has at times thrown me into a kind of mini panic attack.
Would failing to respond alienate or annoy readers?
Would they feel slighted?
See how anal I am?
Bet 90% of you don’t even return to the post to see if i respond to what you write, do you?
So like a pendulum, i’m swinging the other way at the moment.
Because that’s what i do.
I have no idea why i do it, but i do the pendulum thing with everything.
Perhaps it’s rebellion?
Anyway, now i’m worrying because I’m not responding to any comments. (Because of this quandry of what to do AND an intemittent electricity supply).
But I have some new committments in my life, life is changing for me and it’s a good thing. It means there is less time for me to be online. And i’m wanting to use my time more to my own benefit and my family’s.
Is that selfish?
Or do people really not expect a reply and so they simply ain’t bovverred?
After 4 years of blogin’ you’d have thunk i had that one nailed wouldn’t you?
I want to post regularly, read other peoples blogs regularly, but i just can’t continue to respond to every comment on my own blog, at least, not regularly.
I’m trying to find a balance.
Because if i don’t, i feel i might walk away from the blog for a while. And I don’t really want to do that.
So this balancing act…
It’s something that I find extremely challenging in every single area of my life.
But for now I’m making a deal with myself in this one thing.
I’m trying to permit myself to respond to blog comments selectively.
Not as in ‘some comments are more deserving of responses than others’, but as in ‘ there aren’t enough hours in the day, so you just have to get a grip, Deborah’
Y’know, there are a few posts on this blog with over 150 comments on them and it’s damned hard to even keep up with reading them, let alone to respond to them all.
But i have.
Though i am aware that I still need to get back to some people who took things to email (I will get to you eventually, promise).
I probably come across as being a right pompous ass mentioning those comments.
But I’m not bragging.
And despite what it may sound like, I’m not complaining either.
I’m just saying, I READ EVERY COMMENT AND EMAIL and often times i will visit your blogs to respond to what you write here or by way of a reply…. of returning the kind gesture.
And I just hope that is okay with you all from now on.
I sincerely appreciate your taking the time to share your thoughts with me here, so please don’t stop. I’m writing this post as much for me as for you…. I just need to find some perspecive in this area and didn’t want you to get the huff if i fail to respond to individual comments in the combox.
I’d just rather visit your blogs and comment there, because i don’t have th time to do both.
I don’t know if any of that made sense to any one but me!