I am opening this post up to all readers of my blog and i am hereby inviting them to comment, especially if they are Catholic!
A lady named Aly has a question she would like some advice about, I give my response below, but dear readers, if you feel inclined to respond, please do so in this comment box.
Hi there. I am a catholic. My boyfriend is an Anglican. I was like trying so so hard 2 ask him 2 go for our mass at St Peter’s Catholic Church. He finally agreed. But, he did nt promise to become one. Im kinda upset. I couldnt convince him that the Catholic Church is the ONE TRUE church!
How could i or how can i convince him?
Plz reply… Thanks alot.
Speaking for myself (and that is all i have a right to do) I would say this:
Don’t stress about it!
It is perfectly understandable that you want your boyfriend to come to appreciate the beauty of the Catholic Church and recognise it as the Church that Christ himself founded…but…take baby steps with your boyfriend for now… having him agree to attend Mass with you, that’s a pretty big deal for a non Catholic! I imagine he agreed to do so because he cares for you and wants to please you, so maybe ask him to come with you again sometime, let him know how much it means to you and tell him how much you appreciate him doing so.
To be honest with you, i really do believe that the best way for your boyfriend to see the beauty of the Church and specifically the Sacraments, is for you to continue to live out your Catholicity with passion and commitment. You might find that you don’t always have to use words, but he might come to think ‘hey, there really is something about this Catholicism!’.
For example, when you embrace the sacraments, when he sees how how important it is for you to confess regularly and receive communion…when he (hopefully) sees how they infuse your life in a positive way, a way that has you radiating God’s love. Then really, no words will be necessary.
I think it is also important not to belittle his own faith in any way. Not that i am suggesting that you do this. But it can be so easy to slip into ‘negative talk’ and feelings about the faith that is practised by non Catholics. I’ve seen it happen. Uppity Catholics!
It seems from the brief comment you wrote, that faith is important to both of you. That’s a pretty good foundation for a relationship if you ask me. I understand how much you want to share this gift of your Catholicity, with someone that you feel very deeply for, but i really don’t believe you can talk a person into becoming Catholic, it has to come from love….living a life of love…and from prayer.
Pray often for your boyfriend!
Pray to the Lord that your boyfriend’s heart may be opened to where God wants him to be. Pray this prayer regularly and pretty much leave the details to God to work out!
You really can leave this in God’s hands. He can handle it, believe me!
I hope this helps.
I’m sure readers will share their thoughts on this in the combox.
God Bless you!
p.s. If i could offer one practical piece of advice it would be for you to maybe leave Kimberly and Scott Hahn’s ‘Rome Sweet Home‘ somewhere where your boyfriend will find it, i found it enormously powerful reading when i was in the process of being open to swimming the tiber from Anglicanism to Catholicism. Both my parents read it and found it very powerful too!
p.p.s One more practical piece of advice….purchase a green scapular (have it blessed if you can – or bless it yourself with some holy water) and place it somewhere near where he spends a lot of time…. I prayed regularly for my parents conversion and hid a green scapular in their bedroom…. they are both now devout Catholics!